Southern UK Jive

[Jasper]

There is one thing that really annoys me...Spam! Junkmail, annoying phone calls from people trying to sell me stuff, cold calling...Its all the same thing.
I have been on facebook for just a short time and the only friends I have added are non jiving friends, however, I have now recieved a request from Jive Mad to be their friend. Where did they get my details for this??
There is only one place they could have got hold of me. I have joined another jive facebook page, so they have either gone on to that one to try to poach me or this other jive has passed on my details. Either way, I am not happy and think it is a very low way to get custom.
I will not be adding them as a friend, nor will I be going to one of there classes.
Sorry, I`m not a grump, just get fed up with people that do this sort of thing. You can`t even walk down the street these days, without someone bugging you to buy or sign something!

[Olly]

Hi Jasper,

Facebook is primarily a networking site. As soon as you put your details on there, you are consenting to being potentially contacted by anyone else who has a Facebook account.

Jive Mad making a 'friend request' to you is exactly what Facebook is about and there is nothing unusual about this. I cannot imagine the Jive Facebook group you have joined 'passing' your details on to Jive Mad. It is more likely that you are both members/friends of the same Jive facebook group and therefore share a common interest. Jive Mad have now taken the next step and asked you to become their friend - which is networking. Of course, they may well be using the 'friend request' to market their jive nights, but this happens all the time and altough I appreciate that you may not welcome the approach, all you need to do is ignore it. Love it or loathe it, Facebook is about networking and the fact you are part of it means you will continue to get unsolicted contact.
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[Bungle]

Hmmmm. This is difficult.

One mans networking is another mans unwelcome intrusion.

They contact you because they hope to make more money and improve the quality of their product by having more dancers. In return, you may find that their product is the best available, in which case you'll be glad that they contacted you.

The problem is, where commerce is concerned, some people, myself included, generally prefer to seek out what they want, rather than continually being approached and propositioned.

However, is it any different from adding REAL friends to your FB account. The only reason any of us have any friends at all is because they enrich our life in some way. There is an exchange of value, it's just not of the hard cash variety.

It can be annoying though. I was stopped in the street last week by someone who asked 'Do you like films?' I knew what they really should have been asking was 'Will you sign up to XYZ so that we can make money from you'. So I said 'No', because I was almost certain that I wouldn't want to sign up, and because I didn't want to be delayed any further.

It's just one of those things. My email is on a publicly accessible website so I get junk from spambots. When I get home my doormat is covered in unsolicited junk. I'd guess that upwards of 80% of both electronic messages and paper I receive is unsolicited and unwanted.

[Jasper]

Thanks for your replies on this.
I know that people add people as friends on Facebook, but they have to find that person in the first place. The only way Jive mad could have found me , is by going on to the other jive page of which I am a member. I find this very poor. I am on that other site because I want to be. I went to them. For jive mad to try to poach me, just tells me they must be desperate.

I can safely say Jive mad have not enriched my life in anyway

Thanks again for your comments. I guess unwanted mail and contact is just the times we live in.

[Olly]

Jasper wrote

[Southern Jiver]

Facebook and the other Social Networking sites allow anyone to harvest your user name/email address etc, this is the good side / bad side of these type of sites. Every group, application or network you join asks you to give permission for your details to be shared as a condition of joining. I never use any of my personal information on Facebook, a disposable email address and a false user name. SJ
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[Mike J]

I have also recieved an invite from Jive mad to be their friend. Why on earth would I want to do that?! I too am on another jive site, where they have tried to steal me. If they are that deperate for custom, maybe we could all have a whip round for them

[DJ Andy]

As Olly has pointed out, this is the nature of a social networking site such as Facebook.

I regularly receive invitations to 'support' this or that cause, or become a 'fan' of a particular group, or a 'friend' of someone.
I really don't see what the problem is; with just one click on the Ignore box, the problem (if it is one) goes away.

It's certainly a lot easier than dealing with junk mail, or phone and door-to-door cold calls.
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[Jasper]

..and as olly also said. .....

What is more worrying is that certain people with extremely unsavoury hobbies can easily join Facebook groups that thay have no real interest in purely to make contacts and become 'friends' with as many people as possible to 'share' their interests

Your not the DJ with Jive mad are you Andy?

[DJ Andy]

[Jasper]

I agree.
I have deleted their friend request.
Thanks for all your comments.